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# Different faith or values in marriage: finding common ground

Different churches, different religions, or one spouse whose faith changed. Couples share how they made room for each other.

![A young couple talking on a park bench](https://vimeundwa.upeo.ai/images/park-bench-talk-960.webp)

## What couples told us

### **How many named this challenge**

**3%**

*3% of 529 people who described a hard season named faith or values differences as one of the main challenges.*

Based on 529 responses · updated 13 November 2026 · [How we count](https://vimeundwa.upeo.ai/methodology)

### **What helped most**

<details>

<summary>**Show the numbers**</summary>



| **Answer** | **People** | **%** |
| --- | --- | --- |
| Nothing helped | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| My family | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Pastor, imam or faith leader | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Elders | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| My spouse's family | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Friends | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| A book, course or seminar | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| No one | 0 | 0% |
| Professional counsellor | 0 | 0% |
| Mentor or older couple | 0 | 0% |
| Online groups or social media | 0 | 0% |
| Other | 0 | 0% |

</details>

Based on 17 responses · updated 13 November 2026 · [How we count](https://vimeundwa.upeo.ai/methodology)

### **What did not help**

<details>

<summary>**Show the numbers**</summary>



| **Answer** | **People** | **%** |
| --- | --- | --- |
| Friends or family taking sides | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Silent treatment | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Threatening divorce | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Involving too many people | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Social media | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Leaving home | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Revenge | 0 | 0% |
| Other | 0 | 0% |

</details>

Based on 17 responses · updated 13 November 2026 · [How we count](https://vimeundwa.upeo.ai/methodology)

## How they built through it

No stories on this yet - the first ones are being collected right now.

## Fight fair on this

- 1Respect is the starting point: no mocking each other's faith or practice.
- 2Agree on the shared values you want to raise your children with.
- 3A leader both of you trust can help you find common ground.

[Read the Fight Fair guide](https://vimeundwa.upeo.ai/fight-fair)

## If you are not safe

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