Married under 3 years · Together today
How we built ours
We have been married for less than 3 years. Ours is a civil marriage. We do not have children together. We live in Coast.
That couple you admire? Their marriage didn't just float. It was built.
Real stories from Kenyan couples who fought, struggled, some even left home - and built their way back.
Anonymous. 12 minutes. Helps another couple.
Ukiona vyaelea, vimeundwa - when you see a boat floating, someone built it. Every strong marriage you see was built the same way: plank by plank, storm by storm. Vimeundwa lets you look inside and learn how.
You're not the only ones
What are you going through? Tap one to see what other couples told us.
Fighting is normal. Fighting dirty isn't.
Couples who last still argue. What's different is how.
Fight fair rules
- Attack the problem, not the person.
- No insults, no contempt, no name-calling.
- Never in front of the children.
- Take a break, don't walk out for good - say when you'll come back.
- No bringing up the past as a weapon.
- Don't involve the whole family or WhatsApp.
- Never hands, never threats - that's not fighting, that's abuse.
Left home? It doesn't have to be the end.
Many couples where one spouse left home because of conflict are together today. Here is what the couples who answered tell us.
Together again after leaving home
57%
Based on 272 responses · updated 13 November 2026 · How we count
From leaving home to today
Show the numbers
| Never left home → Together | 297 |
| Never left home → Separated now | 18 |
| Never left home → Divorced | 22 |
| Never left home → Widowed | 16 |
| Left once → Together | 85 |
| Left once → Separated now | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Left once → Divorced | 33 |
| Left once → Widowed | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Left 2-3 times → Together | 54 |
| Left 2-3 times → Separated now | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Left 2-3 times → Divorced | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Left 2-3 times → Widowed | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Left 4+ times → Together | 15 |
| Left 4+ times → Separated now | 18 |
| Left 4+ times → Divorced | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Left 4+ times → Widowed | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
Based on 644 responses · updated 13 November 2026 · How we count
How they built theirs
Read all stories
Married 3-5 years · Money · Together today
One of us left home in our first 5 years - and we're still together
We have been married for 3 to 5 years. Ours is a church marriage. We have two children together. We live in Nyanza.
Both spouses' sides
Married 6-10 years · In-laws · Together today
One of us left home in our first 6 years - and we're still together
We have been married for 6 to 10 years. Ours is a customary marriage. We have one child together. We live in Western.
How it works
Three steps. No account, no name - just your experience, in your words.
Each spouse answers separately - your answers stay private from each other. A couple code links them for research, without anyone seeing the other's answers.
- 1
Answer honestly
About 12 minutes, anonymous. Skip anything you do not want to answer.
- 2
Your story is anonymised and checked
Only if you agree. A moderator removes anything that could identify you and never adds facts.
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It helps a couple in their hardest season
Your answers join the numbers and stories that show other couples they are not alone.
Hard times, not dangerous times
This platform is about saving marriages. But if you are being hit, threatened or controlled, that's not a rough patch - it's abuse, and your safety comes first.
If you are not safe
Being hit, threatened or controlled is not a rough patch - it is abuse, and it is never your fault. Help is free and confidential, for women and men.
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