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Based on 529 responses · updated 13 November 2026 · How we count
| Answer | People | % |
|---|---|---|
| Nothing helped | 16 | 25.8% |
| Pastor, imam or faith leader | 14 | 22.6% |
| Friends | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Professional counsellor | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Elders | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Mentor or older couple | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| My family | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| My spouse's family | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| A book, course or seminar | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| No one | 0 | 0% |
| Online groups or social media | 0 | 0% |
| Other | 0 | 0% |
Based on 62 responses · updated 13 November 2026 · How we count
| Answer | People | % |
|---|---|---|
| Involving too many people | 33 | 53.2% |
| Silent treatment | 28 | 45.2% |
| Friends or family taking sides | 22 | 35.5% |
| Threatening divorce | 18 | 29% |
| Revenge | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Social media | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Leaving home | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Other | 0 | 0% |
Based on 62 responses · updated 13 November 2026 · How we count
Married 6-10 years · Money · Together today
We have been married for 6 to 10 years. Ours is a customary marriage. We have one child together. We live in Nairobi.
Married 11-20 years · Kids · Together today
We have been married for 11 to 20 years. Ours is a church marriage. We have three or more children. We live in Central.
Married 11-20 years · We keep fighting · Together today
We have been married for 11 to 20 years. Ours is a come-we-stay, not formalised marriage. We have three or more children. We live in Nairobi.
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