Infertility and losing a child: couples who held on together
Waiting for a child that does not come, or losing one, is a grief that families often make heavier. These couples share how they carried it.
What couples told us
How many named this challenge
6%
Based on 529 responses · updated 13 November 2026 · How we count
What helped most
Show the numbers
| Answer | People | % |
|---|---|---|
| My family | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Nothing helped | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Pastor, imam or faith leader | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Friends | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Professional counsellor | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| My spouse's family | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Elders | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| A book, course or seminar | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Mentor or older couple | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Online groups or social media | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| No one | 0 | 0% |
| Other | 0 | 0% |
Based on 30 responses · updated 13 November 2026 · How we count
What did not help
Show the numbers
| Answer | People | % |
|---|---|---|
| Silent treatment | 19 | 63.3% |
| Friends or family taking sides | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Threatening divorce | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Involving too many people | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Social media | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Leaving home | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Revenge | - | Hidden (fewer than 10) |
| Other | 0 | 0% |
Based on 30 responses · updated 13 November 2026 · How we count
How they built through it
No stories on this yet - the first ones are being collected right now.
Fight fair on this
- 1Grief is different for each person. One may want to talk, the other may go quiet. Neither is wrong.
- 2Do not let relatives decide who is "to blame". Face family pressure as a team.
- 3Seek medical and counselling support together; it is not a weakness.
If you are not safe
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